If you’re looking to write the perfect letter to get your ex back, be sure to avoid these TRAPS that most men make.

1) Asking WHY?

Women don’t think like men, and most men know this, but still don’t “get it”. Do not try to talk your girlfriend back with logic. So please don’t use anything similar to these lines:

“But Why?”

“I don’t get it, I did nothing wrong”

“What can I do to make you think otherwise?”

“What is wrong with you?”

“Why don’t we just talk?”

This is really a form of manipulation that pressures a woman into something she doesn’t want to do…but in reality, she just feels sorry for you, which, in her eye, is the opposite of being an attractive male.

2) Writing a novel

Your letter should be 3 lines long at most.

3) Email Vs. Snail Mail

Both are actually good. I know a lot of people out there would be against emailing, but I have found it to be just as effective. I would highly advise against using emoticons.

4) Tone

You don’t want to sound sad or try to be funny. Your tone should be neutral and if you’re apologizing for being at fault, you have to sound sincere…which brings us to…

5) How to apologize

Apologize once and be sincere about it. Again, only apologize once.