1. Your lifeline of pain must go. So, you need to slice off any type of communication. Take a deep breath and do it fast. You don’t need to let the whole world know, just make yourself “invisible”. It’s going to be difficult but you’ll be fine.

Remember, this means, ALL CONTACT. It doesn’t matter if her birthday is coming up or that you want her to know that you just got a raise. Give your heart a break!!

Now, most guys can’t take the heat. It’s doesn’t make sense NOT to try to talk to her. And they will learn the hard way… you’re just pushing her further away. What you want to do is to create and OPPOSITE effect. What we’re doing here is manifesting a classic Psychological phenomenon of creating a void.

There is truth with the saying.. “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”.

And this is what separates the guys who can attract their exes from the guys who push them away.

2. Occupy the occupier – You need to occupy your mind. Try taking up a new hobby. Remember the dreams you had when you were younger? What happened to them? Those are the kind of emotions you need to evoke to help you with your road to recovery.

Look, it really doesn’t matter what you do, just do something! Go back to school or start a business. Blow all of your money in Vegas. Do not keep still! Exhaust those physical and creative juices that you haven’t used in awhile.

The more “work” you create for yourself, the better.

I personally went through two years of recovery after my fiancée left me for another guy. I competed in a triathlon, went to Bartending School and traveled the world. Start living the life that might have missed out on.

3. So you messed up! – Ok, so you contacted your ex again because you saw her new pics on Facebook and she looks like she’s having such a good time without you! Look, it happens to everyone.. including me! If you can’t help it, keep your answers really short and ambiguous. Tell her that you need to go and you’ll get in touch with her again.

Bullshit if you have to.. “I’m to Amsterdam tomorrow, I’ll get back to you as soon as I come back”.

Ok, let’s get back on track…

4. The opposite sex – Start calling up your friends and start creating a new social life for yourself. Basically, I’m telling you to meet new females.. lots of them. Depending how long you’ve been out “playing the field”, your skill might be a little rusty. So, set up a dating profile for yourself online. Come out guns blazing. Go take a wine tasting or yoga class. Don’t be shy.

I’m not saying that you should forget about your ex, I’m just helping you with the healing process. Most men do not handle breakups really well and that’s the biggest reason why makeups rarely happen.

Why can’t most men handle breakups well? Because they become emotionally irrational which then causes them to act too needy.

This will repel your ex fast. You see, women are so intuitive, they can sniff neediness. They can sniff it through your texts, emails and phone calls.

So you don’t want to mess things up. You only have ONE CHANCE.

If you stayed fairly disciplined between four to eight weeks, your Ex GF will start to think about you and how you’ve been. Now this is the right time to meet up with her again. But this time, you’re going to have her chase you. Tell her that you’re going to make a pizza and if she wants to come shopping for ingredients with you or tell her that you’re going to take a quick road trip to the beach. The possibilities are endless as long as you keep your “meeting”…

…Fun and Electrifying!

Surprise her with some new skills and never bring up the past… NEVER. Change the subject if she ever brings it up. This one slip alone can set you back months!